Setting boundaries is such an important way of safeguarding our values, our time, our energy, and our resources.
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Healthy boundaries allow us to serve with love and not resentment.
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But what happens when we need to set a boundary and we have
no
idea
what
to
say?
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Your mind just goes blank....
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Am I the only one?!?
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So here are some starting points for simple boundary-setting.
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Additional Boundary Scripts:
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Time:
"I've really enjoyed talking with you, but I need to go now."
"Shoot. Wednesday doesn't work for me."
"I could meet you next week for an hour, but my schedule is full this week."
"This meet-up has been great. I need to head home now, but let's do this again soon."
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Commitments
"We are unable to host the 4th of July picnic this year."
"Thank you for thinking of me, but I am unable to volunteer today."
"Unfortunately, I can't attend your party. Have a fabulous time!"
"I can't head up that committee, but I can help with..."
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Emotions
"Let's talk about this later when we're both feeling calmer."
"This conversation is upsetting to me. I will not discuss this anymore."
"Thank you for asking, but I don't care to talk about it."
"Let's shift this conversation to discussing possible solutions."
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Respect
"That text was hurtful. I don't allow others to attack me."
"I hear that you're upset, but that tone of voice is disrespectful."
"As a customer, I deserve better than this. I expect your company to find a solution."
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Remember, you can state your need simply and then let your behavior do the rest.
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No need to over explain or apologize.
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There's nothing wrong with stating what you need in a calm, kind way.
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If you missed last week's Ignite Your Life Show on boundaries, you can catch the replay here.
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If you know you're ready to find out more about how transforming your mindset can change your life, book a call with me here.
Let's talk soon!
All my best,
Kate
Overwhelm Specialist, Life Coach, Health Coach, and Online Personal Trainer